Two men hit the town together to hangout and pick up girls. They’re both dressed well, look average and have decent jobs but most importantly know game. After catching up and chatting for a while it’s time to start talking to women. The first guy switches to another level and instantly starts opening up sets and getting into conversations with attractive women. The second takes a little while to warm up to the scene and needs a few more drinks before he can approach and start talking. By the time the second guy gets into the mood to approach the first already has a number. They decide to go to a second spot where the both go in on a two attractive girls at the bar. The first guy picks up on a Russian accent from one of the girls and soon drops a few words and phrases to show he’s been studying. The girl lightly teases him about his pronunciation but her and her friend are impressed he’s learning. The second guy doesn’t really have much to add to the conversation so he bows out to go try and pick up more girls at a different part of the bar. The first guy ends up making out with the Russian girl and getting her number as well. Finally they decide to go to one last bar before closing. At this bar the first guy ends up dancing with a girl who feels up he stomach and arms and is impressed with his body. With that in mind and the music and alcohol mixing together they make out and she goes back to his place. The second guy ends up dancing with a girl but not much happens. He makes out but can’t close or get her number, there just wasn’t enough time to build attraction.
Even though they are similar on the outside and both know game, looking back on the night one guy clearly had more confidence and operated at another level than the other. So let’s take a look at each of their week before that Friday night. The first guy gets up in the morning and while getting ready for his day listens to learning essential Russian Pimsleur audio mp3. He goes to his 9-5 where he reads the latest game post from the PUA community. After work he goes and spends two hours in the gym staying in top shape. After working out he comes home and if time allows attempts to try a new recipe he can use later on a 2nd or 3rd date. He stays up to date on the latest fashion trends and is sure his suits are well tailored. Whenever he has a chance he practices game on as many women he comes across. The front desk girl at the gym, cashiers at the grocery store, flirts with co-workers. By Friday night gaming and talking to women is just reflex.
The second guy just goes to work and reads PUA websites, other than that not much else. After work he goes home and watches tv, surfs the internet some more reads a few books and goes to sleep. Some days he leaves work and goes to HH with co workers and drinking a few drinks before going home. At HH it’s tough to leave the work group to go hit on any attractive girls if he does see some. The highlight of his week are the weekends Friday and Saturday night where he gets to use his game knowledge to pick up women.
Most single guys that practice game are like the second guy. They know game works and have taken the red pill yet approach it as more of a hobby something to pass the time by during their working hours. They’ve been reading blogs and books for years but have barely improved to having a long conversation with decent looking women. Hell they have a better chance of flipping a coin to get laid. At the end of the night or the next day guy number two will be frustrated and wonder why he isn’t doing as well as the first guy. Why does it take him longer to come up with responses to questions and to come up with things to say to keep the interaction going forward.
Game is not a switch that you turn on when you feel like it then all of a sudden pull hot chicks, get numbers and have a one night stand. When you decide that this is the life you want to live then every day is about game. You’re practicing it on a daily basis. You’re making sure you’re in the best shape possible to give yourself that slight edge over the next guy, you dress the part, you’re studying and learning different things to stand out and be interesting. Pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone with game to insure you’ll always have something to say when talking with women. A man’s success with game depends on everything he puts into it on a daily basis. Improvements are made based on repetition. How many approaches, how many dates, how many times have you been in similar situations with women before, how many times have you brought a girl back to your place and worked your way back to your bedroom. If you’re waiting till Friday or Saturday night after you’ve had six drinks to get good at game it will never happen. I don’t care how many game blogs you read and how much “knowledge” you think you have. The real work is done Monday through Thursday, often times when nobody is looking. Nothing is guaranteed but true confidence comes from knowing you put in that work before hand to be the best you could be at this moment when you step up to her and say hello. Everything else is just game theory.