At the old age of 34 I’ve come to the realization there are a lot of PUA and Red Pill advice that’s out there that sound great in principle or theory but once applied to day to day reality don’t make any sense. What’s even worse is that there are a lot of younger guys in college hell even high school that read a lot of PUA blogs and if they go down the wrong path might spend years of development focused on the PUA theory that doesn’t apply to real life. For that matter there are also a lot of regular/ older guys that are just now finding the red pill and a lot of mansophere blogs who may also waste time trying to apply incorrect theory.
One of those theories is the concept of never marrying a woman over 30. The theory goes that an over 30 year old woman has lower fertility, been on the cock carousal longer, and most importantly will hit the wall faster than a woman in her 20’s. So if you’re going to marry a woman find a 21 year old virgin (or girl with a low notch count) and marry her. There isn’t really much to argue with over that its great… as a theory. But the problem with the theory is it’s focusing strictly on numbers and a fear of hitting the wall.
Now let’s make some logical assumptions. A majority of you guys live in the United States and probably a decent size to big city. You’re educated and if you’re considering getting married you’re either at the end of your 20’s or into you early to mid-30’s even older. Lastly if you’re ready to get married and are a sane person you’ll want to date the girl minimum two to three years. An engagement period is another year. After the wedding most people would like to spend at least a year of enjoying being married before having kids. So by the time you meet a girl to the time you have kids that’s a minimum of four years on the fast track. That’s three to four years if everything goes right, you don’t get cold feet, she doesn’t get cold feet and you’re all in.
Applying these assumption to this theory certain things become clear. The best chance of accomplishing this theory is if you yourself are in your 20’s and have been dating the same girl since college. Otherwise you’re talking about being 30+ or older looking for and dating girls in their 20’s but out of college (21+ to drink). Not a big deal at first but in America girls in their early 20’s and out of college are focused on their carriers and making a name for themselves. Of course there are tons of girls who want to marry a guy that’s well off and older so they don’t have to work, hence if that’s you and you’re over 30 looking for the gold digger sure go for it (I have a post about this coming). Otherwise the way this theory works is that you’d have to be a 30 something year old man trolling college bars or trying to get into an early 20 something social circle all in the hopes of marrying a woman younger than 30 in America. If she’s a typical American she’ll want to work, start a relationship and you’re still looking at close to 4 years before you’re married with a kid. So if you’re 30 and she 24 (realistic age) you might not be married with a kid till she’s 28 and that’s with everything going great.
More than the logistics of finding, dating and marrying a young 20 something is an even bigger problem is… full adult hood. Most girls right out of college don’t have fully developed life experiences. Guy or girl a person at 21 will not be the same person at 28, 30 or even 32. Think about your own life and how much your tastes, wants and needs have changed within five years. Even how if you just got into game and as your notch count increased your tastes and hunger developed and changed. What I’ve seen happen in my social circle is high school and college sweet hearts divorce within 8 to 10 years and the most common excuse is that they married when they were kids or too young to realize what they really wanted out of life. The theory that if you marry her young and inexperienced and fuck her till she falls in love with you you’ll have her forever or be able to enjoy her young body longer is unrealistic.
The biggest fear that comes out of the marrying women under 30 theory is that they will hit the wall faster after they turn 30. If you’re looking at an age (30) as the biggest factor in a woman hitting the wall then you’re looking at aging and women completely wrong. A woman in her 20’s who doesn’t exercise and based on her genetic background may hit the wall faster after her first kid in her 20’s than a woman who stays in shape and active that hasn’t had a kid. As you can see the concept of the wall is based on number is completely meaningless.
Instead of focusing on a number a man should be focusing on a woman’s lifestyle choices. Marry a woman who lives a lifestyle that will make her more sexually desirable to you in the long run. Sure a 21 year old has a great body but if she’s not working out and staying in shape then the rate of her metabolism slowing down will increase with each passing year. Put that together with her partying every weeknight, drinking, eating crappy food then you can see how focusing on a number again is meaningless. It’s one thing to meet an attractive girl but if you’re considering marrying her then you want her to stay looking good for as long as possible. So excessive smoking or drinking is out. Shitty diet is out. Massive weight gains and losses are out. Some sort of physical activity on a regular basis should be a must. She must be into staying in shape and looking good for herself though not doing it because of you or whoever she dates, that’s the real trick.
This is one of the best ways I know of guarding against a woman hitting the wall on you right after you marry her. With obesity on the rise in America marrying a woman under 20 in the belief you’ll enjoy her youthful body longer is a suckers bet. Marrying a woman regardless of her age who’s proven that she has the desire and self-control to stay in fit and look good makes more sense.