It’s easy for guys who’ve been in game for a long time to get into a groove and develop a comfort zone. Maybe you’ll only go to a certain area of town vs another. Maybe you prefer a certain bar where you’re well known and popular with the staff. You could make it a point to only meet girls out and go for a one night stand over a proper date. Or you could prefer to invite women over rather than meeting them out while out on the town. Whatever the case is you’ve developed a certain pattern and style to your game that will optimize the chances of you being successful with whatever your goal is with women. The only thing is the chances of you meeting a more attractive girl than the ones that usually hangout in that comfort zone are slim.
But to truly know game means you will have to step out of your game comfort zone and experience things you’re not used to. By the end of 2013 and most of this year I’ve been out on more dates with different women than I have been in the last five years put together. I’ve had more success but what the increase in traffic has forced me to do is truly reevaluate all my weaknesses with women. I’ve had to work better on my txt game in setting up dates, picking a venue or venue change based on my date rather than a go to routine, be more patient for sex but not be too relaxed and seemed not interested.
For example I was used to getting the notch on the first or second date but eventually a met a girl and it went into the fourth date and eventually fifth date. This was new territory for me and I begin to second guess my moves, mistakes were made and missed major warning signs. I once went on a date with a girl who had to be up early for a long drive out of town to see her parents the next day. I stuck to my script of a nice sushi dinner then after went to a crowded busy lounge instead of low key impressive hotel bar that was just across the street. I wasn’t reading her body language and the fact that she wasn’t looking for a loud night out but to just to chill lead to me blowing it. While out with another girl I tried too hard to demonstrate higher value and talked about not dating American girls seriously in a few years. She got pretty silent and that’s basically when it hit me that I just trashed American girls on not making good girlfriends (that one was kinda funny though). Another time I got caught up listening to a girl’s sob story so I let my guard down. It took me a while to figure out she was a user something that I pride myself on never letting happen.
As a result of stepping out of my comfort zone I’ve experienced some failures. But the thing is my game has gotten better, like I’ve been working at a higher level preparing myself for something greater. Slowly but surely the talent level of the girls I’m dating have gone up a few points. I’m getting better results with a better talent level. Staying in your player comfort zone is an easy way to plateau. Most guys think if they move to a better fancier part of town where the action is they’ll just automatically get more/ hotter women. Some guys think if they get that next raise and more money, better car, fancy clothes they’ll be able to pull hotter women. It’s none of that. It’s about testing your game against the unknown until the unknown becomes familiar. If it’s going out on more dates, running day game and practicing approaching women outside, joining a group or taking class that will put you in a different social circle you don’t usually run with. All of these things are things to get out of what’s comfortable and stretch your game. If you can think of one way to get out of your comfort zone and work it past the initial failure stage you’ll be surprised how fast your game will improve.