Moving without the ball is a basketball term used to describe when a player on offense runs around, sometimes off set screens and eventually frees himself up to take a shot. The Duke Blue Devils and more specifically JJ Redick was probably one of the greatest college basketball players I’ve ever seen move without the ball. This is easily one of the most important offensive moves a player can learn to get baskets and become an effective scorer. Most players spend their time concentrating on the dribbling, driving to the basket, low post footwork but if you’re a guard and you can’t get yourself open then all those moves you have when you get the ball won’t matter. If you ever watched JJ in a game and weren’t paying close attention all you would see is him catching the ball and shooting a three in one fluid motion. What you missed was him running back and forth on the baseline, curling off set screens , and losing his defender in all the confusion.
I want you to keep that in mind when it comes to game. When you’re speaking to a woman, the ball is in your hands, you’re driving the conversation, saying all the right things to get back to her place or bring her back to yours to score. But during the whole interactions sometimes she talk (of course, duh) maybe you’re part of a group with her friends there, maybe there’s another guy trying to hit on her as well, whatever the case, when you don’t have any control that’s when you’re moving without the ball. A few “game denial” websites read this post I put up about going out when I was in the mood that lead to me hooking up that night. They point to the fact that the girl was already attracted to me from the jump therefore proving game doesn’t exist. They’ve also pointed to some of Tyler’s posts and claimed because of good looks, game doesn’t work.
I would now like you to take a moment and read this post from Jezebel.
This is the classic tale of how being good looking doesn’t guarantee you getting sex. This is what people who deny game fail to understand just showing up with good looks may get your foot in the door but there are still a million ways to blow it. Attempting to be funny, cool or edgy, sometimes just opening your mouth will do more harm than good. Between the girls version and how I hooked up the similarities were there seemed to be an attraction between both people. After reading the whole story men who know anything about game can see where mistakes were made.
First off there was a week long shoot and besides flirtatious glances and small talk there was no serious building of comfort, no connection made. Even at the last night when all this went down and they were at the same party, the author doesn’t mention them spending part or a huge chunk of the party getting to know each other and escalating. She just skips to the end where dude jumps in a cab with her because they’re going in the same direction. Now go back to my post, I spend my whole time in the second spot getting to know my girl before leaving with her. This is the part of the game when the ball is in your court. This is where you tell your inappropriate lesbian jokes, and hint at going back to her place to hook up. This is where you find out if she’s really into you enough to hook up with you. If she wasn’t feeling your jokes you could have fumble recovered or moved on to a girl that does, again this is supposedly an attractive actor.
As the story goes on though and Mr. Attractive is invited up all of the sudden now he wants the rock and want’s to spit his “real game” to get laid. He gets too comfortable and ends up completely blowing it. The author writes how she was repulsed in just five minutes. Again compared with my night I write very little of still getting to know her or me saying anything interesting or smooth or incredibly funny once she decided to go back to my place. Why? Because the work was done, I had the ball and passed it to her and continued to move without the ball. This is the time gentlemen where you make small talk, saying just enough for it to not get awkward but not too much for her to over think anything and change her mind. This is the point where you just buy time until you’re actually having sex. The less is more time. You pull back, you relax (but not too much), you let the anticipation build. Maybe you’re holding her hand, maybe you’re stroking her forearm, in the cab maybe your knees are touching. Everything becomes implied but not said. You do all the work upfront, in the beginning so that in the end it’s just coasting.
So to all the people who deny game works out there. The guys that think being attractive or instant attraction between two people is all it takes. Let this be a reminder to you that even though it looks like nothing is going on, and no game is being played, the true player makes it looks effortless, moves without the ball, but for some reason ends up wide open shot hitting the game winning shot. Now how many times do you think that players run that one play for a game winning shot scenario over and over again? Remember knowing what not to say is sometimes more valuable than all the pick up lines and game you can remember