In October both of the guys I lift with on a daily basis are getting married two weeks apart. One has been with his significant other for over 4 years and the other has been with his for over two years. Today I just found out that another good buddy of mine, one who knows about game, reads this blog and slays like nobody’s business bought a ring and is planning on marrying his girlfriend that he currently lives with. In a few weeks I turn 33. I’m turning 33 and I still think I haven’t even begun to peak yet.
This isn’t about ant marriage because I’m not anti-marriage at all. I’m happy for my buddies even excited for them like watching someone fulfill their dream from the side line. If it works it works if it doesn’t it doesn’t but right now they are happy and that’s all you can really ask for. I take a look at my life right now and it’s as if I can feel it getting better slowly, like the movement of a glacier. After six months of hard work I got a promotion and a little raise at my current position. I’ve put together a little financial get right plan that if goes well will have me paying off my only debt (my car) faster than planned, then moving out of the apartment I share with two Asian guys into a proper bachelor pad in the heart of DC.
My point is I’m not satisfied with my life the way it is right now, but honestly my life is good. The thing is I know it will get better and I want to truly experience those good times when it does as free single man. I haven’t peaked when it comes to life or even my game skills and that’s crazy to think about. And it’s not that I think because I’ll have more money or a better logistical location equals better quality in my dating life. Right now I’m still banging a recent college grad and pulling things on the side. It’s because with more money and better logistics will give me the power to truly push my game to its limit. There’s a difference there, how many rich guys with sick apartments do you know that can’t get laid to save their lives?
I feel like it’s just bubbling, like my life is about to blow up in a good way after a few years of really down times that only a few know about. When I’m out talking to women now they can sense it in my swagger that I’ve got something going on, like I’m a first round #1 draft pick about to sign that contract. I’m going places. What I liked about Roosh’s Layer Cake story was how both brothers got into that world and both went through two phases. The first phase was to bang a lot of different women and get as many notches as they could because they weren’t used to it. The second phase was them getting tired of the numbers and wanting to settle down for higher quality. I feel like I’m just now at the end of phase 1 and am getting the tools needed for phase 2. That I’ve isolated my weaknesses and now understand what’s needed for phase 2. I want to enter that phase and really enjoy it still not rushing to get married but have a string of these awesome relationships with higher tier attractive. I will go into more of this later but I’m feeling that the women I’m talking to can sense this about me as well so they’ve been responding to it.
My friends that are getting married have all passed that point in their careers; that come up point where they know financially they’re straight. The women they’re getting married to aren’t average or anything they’re all beautiful but for my buddies they know that’s the best they can get. That’s the thing with me, I’ve dated girls and hooked up with girls that the average guy would think “that’s it”… that’s the best I can do. But guys like us we have that voice that speaks to us and says, “You can do better”. It’s what makes it so easy to stay single while your boys are falling around you like the first five minutes of Saving Private Ryan and shit. There is a calm about you, you’re not still single because nobody wants you; you’re single because you haven’t reached your limit yet. I think the average guy gets a great job, gets a couple of promotions and then thinks to himself (like an idiot),” hmmm the only thing missing from my life is a wife. Once I get a wife my life is complete”. To this man marriage is the thing that completes a man and makes him happy. Then in a few years he looks back and realizes the fun he could have had if he stayed single. Maybe his wife was smoking hot at 22 when they got married but six years later maybe a couple of kids look at them now.
Eight years ago if you’d told me I’d be dating and banging the current type of girls I am I wouldn’t have believed you. Hell I even banged a girl that a crashed and burned with just two years ago. I can’t speak for others (or maybe I can) but with time and knowledge of the game life has only gotten better. What’s really scary to me is the realization… I’m not even in my prime yet. No way I’d step away from the game when I’m not on top.