Alpha speak the sexist opener

Virgle Kent December 7, 2012 Game 12 Comments on Alpha speak the sexist opener








You ever notice when you go to a chain restaurant or if you’re at a strip club there’s always that girl that calls you honey or darling and she doesn’t even know who the fuck you are? The hostess, waitress, female bartender, drink girl or strippers grinding their herpes crouch on your leg. Multiply this by 100 hundred if you go to anywhere in the south. Ever ask yourself why this complete stranger is referring to you by a pet name usually reserved for someone who’s fucked you once or twice? The answer is to make you feel welcomed, comfortable, relaxed and at home in order to get what they want from you… your money.

We’ve grown up in a society today where there is a proper way a guy is supposed to address a female he just met that he hardly knows. Ms. or Mrs. In a formal setting and if you just met a girl in a bar/ casual setting it’s less formal than that, just her first name. But there is a select group of truly alpha males who get to flip the switch around and pet name call women he just met within minutes of meeting them, sometimes before even getting their first names.  When the same scenario is switched and a beta does it or man who doesn’t have experience/ self confidence of talking to thousands of women says the same thing he’s yelled at and called sexist. Here’s an example

You’re walking up to a crowded bar trying to get a drink. There’s a semi attractive girl that already has one but is blocking your way.

The alpha- Walks up confidently with a purpose towards the girl with slight smirk on his face and say,

“Excuse me sweetheart let me get by you and get a drink” (absolutely dead pan and no hint of irony)

She looks him up and down and immediately can tell he’s an alpha male and about that life, she smiles, says; “no problem” slides over and lets him get a drink.

The beta-less experienced man- walks up looks around nervously then decides to walk to the same girl

“Um… I’m sorry baby… can I get by you to get a drink” (not making eye contact, voice wobbling)

She responds, “Baby.. BABY! I don’t know you like that, ima a grown woman! I’m nobody’s baby! What do you think this is 1950, nobody puts baby in the corner.. you fucking jerk!”

In both situations the men referred to the girl with a pet name even though she was a complete stranger. By society’s standards the way both of them referred to her was completely sexist and ill advised. But just like office harassment and street harassment… alpha males get to get away with it. This is something I started playing with about a year ago. Trust me it’s one of the most uncomfortable things in the world to do, refer to a woman with a pet name in such an intimate way. It took practice but the more I did it the more comfortable I felt doing it. It was like breaking some kind of law and not getting caught so I grew bolder to keep committing the crime.

I walk through a crowded bar or dance floor and an attractive girl is in my way, I’d put my hand on her lower back and whisper, “excuse me beautiful and gently keep on moving past her”. I walk up to the bar and it’s a female bartender I start my order off with “Hey darling let me get a…..”.  This moved to me opening women in the same way, “Hey gorgeous is there a place that plays good hip hop around here”.

I had a fear of being called out for my obvious sexist reference or being told off by a feminist. But what I found is that this is one of the things everyone is told is wrong by feminist but women actually kinda of like. I noticed if it I started the pickup with a pet name opening and the woman was into me she’d be more at ease and the time to build comfort was a lot shorter. If I was asking for something from a woman and I used “sweet heart, darling, beautiful….” I was more likely to get it a little bit faster or with almost no bitchy attitude. If I was working on a girl and introduced to the cock blocking friend, “hey beautiful my name is VK what’s yours” and the friend would come back to “check up” on her less often.  I’m not going to front… I even started using this on female coworkers. Again the reason why women in the service industry use this on men is because it relaxes guys, makes them fill at home and comfortable and allows the woman to ask for what she wants later (money) and the guy will be less resistant to give it to her. If you do this right and flip it around then when you ask for what you want later (her # or her to go home with you) she’ll be less resistant and more comfortable to saying yes to both.

This can be a very powerful tool for disarming women. At first try it out on every girl just to get a feel for speaking to women in such a sexist manner. In your mind it may sound a little corny even but once you’re used to it you can pull it out whenever you want to get what you want. Try playing around with it for ultimate mind fucks. Like you being introduced to two women one is an 8 and the other is 6/5 or 7. Ask the less attractive one first, “Hey beautiful what’s your name” then ask the 8 “… and you are…” At first you may think this comes off as direct game but if you say it in a nonchalant way as if you talk to every girl like this then there will be a question in her head if you’re flirting or just being nice… if she’s into you she’ll want to find out. Now some of you may argue about complimenting a woman so soon in the pickup with a pet name opener and how it may come off as beta. Find the difference below.

“Wow, you’re beautiful, what’s your name”

“Hey beautiful, what’s your name”

Alpha males get away with everything.

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About The Author

Been in the game since 2005 and still learning everyday. But now I feel comfortable giving back and sharing wisdom with guys looking to improve one or two things in their lives that could increase their self confidence and the chance of having a favorable outcome in any romantic interaction with women. When you step to her you know you've already put in that work on your end. Nothing is left to chance.


  1. Frisky business December 7, 2012 at 2:49 pm

    Wouldn’t calling a girl you jus met “beautiful” violate the “ignore her beauty” poon commandment? A Ravens player recently did this with a female sports reporter but most dudes have no where near that kind of alpha cred. Calling chick “sweetheart” would be much better I think.

    • Nate December 7, 2012 at 5:03 pm

      I think you missed something-

      “Alpha males get away with everything”

      Once you build yourself up you can start doing whatever you want. I do so much “betabetabeta” stuff and get away with it, because I can. Shit, it works better for me usually.

  2. Doc December 7, 2012 at 3:55 pm

    It’s all about how much confidence you have – I got in the habit of calling young women “Babe” a long time ago. I still do it every now and then even though I try not to since I have several businesses. It was fine till I got older and I started dealing with a lot of women who were much younger than I am in business.

    Every now and then one slips through, and it’s usually with a laugh that I go, “whoops”. Although I will sometimes tell women, “Friends call me Doc, lovers call me something else” and I get the “Oh, and what is that?” To which I respond, “You have to work for that one.”

    Several have found out what that is, but it’s all up to them…

  3. AneroidOcean December 7, 2012 at 7:33 pm

    Fuck VK. Stop giving away all the secrets!

    I’ve actually always thought it was endearing, not “crass, sexist, or rude” to call a woman darling or beautiful or sweetheart. I always thought back fondly on movies and such where men would call women that, so I’ve always incorporated it at some level in my interactions with women. I know that these terms are seen as demeaning by feminists, but truly feminine women don’t seem to mind them at all. My female friends actually get to the point where they call me these types of names too. When you are seen as an Alpha male, a true leader and protector of the herd, you can call women whatever you want.

    The women I’m dating usually get nicknames, like Danny talks about:

  4. Cakes December 10, 2012 at 6:19 am

    I’ve seen my male buddy do this countless times – he’s a total male slut, and we used to go to trade shows etc. together for work. It was so amusing seeing him go up to middle-aged corporate receptionists to get a meeting with a CEO he never met to try to sell him an ad, and the old battleaxe would totally blush/melt and let him right on by. Nobody else could get away with it like he did, he really had whatever charisma it takes to pull that shit off. Hell he occasionally calls me sugar booger and I’ve never punched him. He also broke records making sales for our company. This is definitely a thing not everyone can pull off though…

    • Virgle Kent December 10, 2012 at 11:33 am


      ahhhh see how us male sluts operate? But yes there are obvious real world implications on how this method of buttering up women can get you what you want later. Figures this tactic would also work with sales! But agreed if you are the least bit beta in any way or not comfortable speaking to women a certain way then they’ll be able to smell it on a guy like cheap cologne aka cool water.

  5. Cakes December 10, 2012 at 12:47 pm

    @Virgle… hahaha… Cool water, so true. Personally I can always tell a player when they’re sporting so much Chanel Egoiste it makes me gag, it’s a nice smell in small doses but it screams ‘I throw parties in random panties all the days’… I think having worked up close with a dude who was 90% slick moves really made me immune to that shit (though I know you guys like to laugh at ladies who say this about themselves).

  6. dumasworld December 14, 2012 at 8:26 am

    I use ‘darling’ a lot, never been pulled up on it, recently though with various girls I’ve been giving them real ‘pet’ names. I have a hamster, a mouse, and a rabbit. I’ve even opened some girls whilst daygaming by telling them they look like little mice or hamsters as they are scurrying along.

  7. Dannyfrom504 December 15, 2012 at 9:30 am

    Damn near every girl I know has a nickname. Most of them are playful negs. And they eat it up.

    Virgil- ask Nate or Bronan for a copy of my sites Christmas card. Lol. I think you’ll like it.

  8. Kurtz December 27, 2012 at 10:06 pm

    I work a drive through, and this works wonderfully. The younger the girl, the better. I had a car with 3 girls in it come through one time, and I took to calling the driver “3-headed monster.” The whole group has been back at least 4 times in the last week.

    Also, I found more of my female co-workers respected me and behaved more at ease when I started using those pet names more. It might have been the change in attitude that I had with it, (I got called misogynist more than a few times during meetings with my manager”, but I’d prefer this to the “safe” environment any day.

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