You ever notice when you go to a chain restaurant or if you’re at a strip club there’s always that girl that calls you honey or darling and she doesn’t even know who the fuck you are? The hostess, waitress, female bartender, drink girl or strippers grinding their herpes crouch on your leg. Multiply this by 100 hundred if you go to anywhere in the south. Ever ask yourself why this complete stranger is referring to you by a pet name usually reserved for someone who’s fucked you once or twice? The answer is to make you feel welcomed, comfortable, relaxed and at home in order to get what they want from you… your money.
We’ve grown up in a society today where there is a proper way a guy is supposed to address a female he just met that he hardly knows. Ms. or Mrs. In a formal setting and if you just met a girl in a bar/ casual setting it’s less formal than that, just her first name. But there is a select group of truly alpha males who get to flip the switch around and pet name call women he just met within minutes of meeting them, sometimes before even getting their first names. When the same scenario is switched and a beta does it or man who doesn’t have experience/ self confidence of talking to thousands of women says the same thing he’s yelled at and called sexist. Here’s an example
You’re walking up to a crowded bar trying to get a drink. There’s a semi attractive girl that already has one but is blocking your way.
The alpha- Walks up confidently with a purpose towards the girl with slight smirk on his face and say,
“Excuse me sweetheart let me get by you and get a drink” (absolutely dead pan and no hint of irony)
She looks him up and down and immediately can tell he’s an alpha male and about that life, she smiles, says; “no problem” slides over and lets him get a drink.
The beta-less experienced man- walks up looks around nervously then decides to walk to the same girl
“Um… I’m sorry baby… can I get by you to get a drink” (not making eye contact, voice wobbling)
She responds, “Baby.. BABY! I don’t know you like that, ima a grown woman! I’m nobody’s baby! What do you think this is 1950, nobody puts baby in the corner.. you fucking jerk!”
In both situations the men referred to the girl with a pet name even though she was a complete stranger. By society’s standards the way both of them referred to her was completely sexist and ill advised. But just like office harassment and street harassment… alpha males get to get away with it. This is something I started playing with about a year ago. Trust me it’s one of the most uncomfortable things in the world to do, refer to a woman with a pet name in such an intimate way. It took practice but the more I did it the more comfortable I felt doing it. It was like breaking some kind of law and not getting caught so I grew bolder to keep committing the crime.
I walk through a crowded bar or dance floor and an attractive girl is in my way, I’d put my hand on her lower back and whisper, “excuse me beautiful and gently keep on moving past her”. I walk up to the bar and it’s a female bartender I start my order off with “Hey darling let me get a…..”. This moved to me opening women in the same way, “Hey gorgeous is there a place that plays good hip hop around here”.
I had a fear of being called out for my obvious sexist reference or being told off by a feminist. But what I found is that this is one of the things everyone is told is wrong by feminist but women actually kinda of like. I noticed if it I started the pickup with a pet name opening and the woman was into me she’d be more at ease and the time to build comfort was a lot shorter. If I was asking for something from a woman and I used “sweet heart, darling, beautiful….” I was more likely to get it a little bit faster or with almost no bitchy attitude. If I was working on a girl and introduced to the cock blocking friend, “hey beautiful my name is VK what’s yours” and the friend would come back to “check up” on her less often. I’m not going to front… I even started using this on female coworkers. Again the reason why women in the service industry use this on men is because it relaxes guys, makes them fill at home and comfortable and allows the woman to ask for what she wants later (money) and the guy will be less resistant to give it to her. If you do this right and flip it around then when you ask for what you want later (her # or her to go home with you) she’ll be less resistant and more comfortable to saying yes to both.
This can be a very powerful tool for disarming women. At first try it out on every girl just to get a feel for speaking to women in such a sexist manner. In your mind it may sound a little corny even but once you’re used to it you can pull it out whenever you want to get what you want. Try playing around with it for ultimate mind fucks. Like you being introduced to two women one is an 8 and the other is 6/5 or 7. Ask the less attractive one first, “Hey beautiful what’s your name” then ask the 8 “… and you are…” At first you may think this comes off as direct game but if you say it in a nonchalant way as if you talk to every girl like this then there will be a question in her head if you’re flirting or just being nice… if she’s into you she’ll want to find out. Now some of you may argue about complimenting a woman so soon in the pickup with a pet name opener and how it may come off as beta. Find the difference below.
“Wow, you’re beautiful, what’s your name”
“Hey beautiful, what’s your name”
Alpha males get away with everything.