T. AKA Rick _Raw is a prolific thinking and blogger who likes to write about human nature and sexual politics, that is to say that he’s a deep thinker. His blog The Rawness is the place to go if you like to deep dive into matters concerning psychology and the reason why people do what they do. Although hit articles are often long, once he hits his stride he becomes a very hard man to argue against, I’ve been on both ends of this via twitter. Today T gives us the death nail and actual look in to the cult known as HBD. Shit gets RAW.
If you’ve spent any time reading men’s blogs, I’m sure by now you’ve come across the rantings of a subsection of the manosphere who believe in something called human biodiversity, or HBD for short. The believers in this pseudoscience cult like to call themselves “race realists.” They fixate on spreading the gospel of how non-Asian minorities are inherently genetically inferior to whites in terms of intelligence, and that this intelligence gap can never be bridged regardless of what political actions are taken by government or how much hard work is done by these groups. The most accurate way to describe HBD/”race realism” is as a narcissistic cult/support group for shame-filled white people who have trouble reconciling the grandiose self-image they grew up with against the increasingly mundane reality they are faced with as adults.
The first thing to understand if you want to figure out the rituals and mindsets involved in “race realism” is to understand shame and narcissism and how they work. The main motivating force behind narcissism is shame, which is a concept very different than guilt, although the two are often confused. Shame is an area of study in psychology that was neglected for quite a while and has only recently become a strong area of interest. In the past few decades there has been a lot of research on shame, and how it differs from guilt.
Shame, which is more toxic and primitive, is when you think there is something wrong with what you are. Guilt, which is healthier and more mature, is when you think there is something wrong with what you’re doing. Shame-prone people will think “I am wrong” while guilt-prone people will think “I did something wrong.” Shame-prone people will think “I am stupid” while guilt-prone people think “I made a mistake.” For a guilt-prone person, an action at the end of the day is an action, but for a shame-prone person, an action is a commentary on their very being. For a guilt-prone person, since an action is simply an action, when they commit a faulty action, the way to fix it is to confess, come clean, and try to take corrective actions. For a shame-prone person, since each action is a determination on their very worth as a person and a commentary on their whole identity, faulty actions must be concealed, explained away, blamed on others, rationalized, repressed, or dealt with using any number of popular defense mechanisms. Admitting mistakes is very hard for a shame-prone person, because in their mind doing so is the same as admitting that their whole self is defective.
To put it another way, for a shame-based person, their main battle throughout their lives is with who or what they fundamentally are, whereas for a guilt-based person, their main battle throughout their lives is with the quality of their actions. Even when a shame-based person is concerned with actions on the surface, and appears to be exhibiting guilt, in actuality they are only concerned with what those actions reveal about their identity and what their actions reveal about whether or not they’re fundamentally defective. Their sense of guilt is inextricably fused to shame. For example, a guilt-prone person may feel bad about cheating in a contest because he knows it’s wrong and he may feel some empathy for the other participants who played fair and were deprived of their rightful prizes. A shame-prone person when cheating in the contest will feel bad either because he feels that having to cheat must mean that he’s defective (especially if others could do as good without cheating) or because he is exposed and now has had his image ruined and defectiveness revealed.
When you’re shame-based, you have this constant fear of finding evidence confirming to yourself that you really are defective, as well as a constant fear of being exposed as defective or as inferior to other people. There are three faulty coping mechanisms neurotic people use to handle shame. They either avoid and try not to think about or dealing with anything that triggers those feelings, surrender and just give in to the idea that they’re inferior and accept defectiveness as their core identity and live their lives accordingly, or they overcompensate and crowd any such feelings of inferiority out of their conscious awareness by filling their minds with grandiose, over-the-top ideas of superiority. Since the basic fear underlying shame is being defective and inferior to others, those who overcompensate against shame go into overdrive convincing themselves and onlookers of the opposite, that they’re perfect and superior to others.
Those who choose to deal with shame through overcompensation are what we call narcissists. Overcompensation against low self-esteem feelings created by shame-proneness is the fundamental motivation of all narcissism, and this overcompensation is maintained by a variety of defense mechanisms like projection, blaming others, denial, intellectualization (AKA mental masturbation), repression, reaction formation, distortion, splitting, extreme fantasy, acting out, displacement, and others. (It will take too long to define all of these, but google each term if you want to learn more.)
Why are shame-based people more prone to overcompensate via narcissism than guilt-based people? This is because when you feel your problem is your very self rather than your actions, you feel a certain powerlessness to change. Changing what you do feels very possible, but changing what you actually are is very intimidating. When the problem is that you’ve done something wrong (guilt), you can just rectify it by doing right. When the problem is that you are something wrong (shame), where do you begin? When the problem is that you made a mistake (guilt), all you have to do take actions to rectify it like coming clean, restitution, or taking reparative action. When the problem is that you are a mistake, where do you begin? And so on and so on. It’s way harder to change who and what you are than it is to change the things you do, so when you start thinking that your problems stem from who and what you are, you develop a belief that all your qualities, whether good and bad, are fixed and unchangeable.
People with toxic shame levels feel like their problems stem from their inherent identity, who they fundamentally are as entities. They also feel like their actions are not important in and of themselves but only insofar as they “reveal” whether they’re truly defective or not. Actions to a guilt-based person can change what you will become, but to a shame-based person, actions only reveal and “prove” more fully what you already are.
Another difference between shame and guilt is the role of other people. If you are guilt-based, you tend to compare yourself to yourself, and what other people do is less relevant. Since guilt is based on the quality of your actions, the only thing that matters is whether what you did was good or if it was bad. The fact that a whole bunch of other people also did the same bad thing doesn’t change anything. For example, if a guilt-based person steals something during a blackout, they will feel bad regardless of whether or not everyone else they know also stole something at the same time. For a shame-based person, though, since the issue is whether their actual whole self is defective or not, comparison to the behavior of other people becomes vitally important. If a shame-based person steals something during a blackout but finds out no one else did the same, they may feel bad because the fact that they’re the only ones who took advantage could be interpreted as proof they’re defective. But if everyone else also stole the same amount they did, now they can tell themselves they’re not defective, just normal. And if everyone stole more, they can even tell themselves they are superior beings, because even though they stole, they still were better behaved than everyone else.
So with guilt, other people don’t matter as much because if you did something wrong, that’s all that matters in determining whether or not you feel bad about yourself, regardless of whether a bunch of other people also did the same wrong thing. With shame, though, since the issue is defectiveness, and defectiveness is judged by comparison to the norm, what others do is just as important if not moreso than what you yourself do. This is why shame-based people spend incredible amounts of time trying to point out the defectiveness of others, because even if you feel powerless to change who and what you are via your actions, if you can prove others are as bad or worse, you can still ward off feelings of shame.
Race realism, or HBD, is a movement where a bunch of toxically shame-based white men created a cult of collective narcissism, a support group where members help other members deal with the low self-esteem created by their extreme shame issues. They support each other in their efforts to overcompensate against the shame. The main proof that they are shame-based comes from how much they fanatically believe in genetic determinism, the idea that one is either born great or born defective, and that hard work can do nothing to change that. They are constantly trying to argue that greatness comes from racial background, gender, country of origin, genetic makeup, and other things that one is born with and can’t change with actions.
They collaborate together to do all the narcissistic defenses necessary to maintain the overcompensation. They team up to mentally masturbate, project their insecurity and shame onto other groups, to blame other groups, to repress self-loathing, engage in extreme fantasy, acting out, displacement. As I explained earlier, showing other people are equally or more defective is very important to a shame-based person, so just as much if not more time is spent on HBD blogs tearing down and examining other racial groups as is spent on tooting their own horns. This is why they are endlessly fixated on what other groups do, because shame by its very nature is very other-oriented.
The cult fills their self-esteem needs by pursuing three main goals:
(1) Convince themselves and others that despite their unremarkable, mundane daily lives, they are in fact remarkable, superior people who are only out for fairness and justice.
(2) Convince themselves and others that the reason they have unremarkable, mundane daily lives despite being such remarkable, superior people is because of external circumstances, be it minorities, women, liberals, elites, government, and various conspiracy theories, and that in a just world, a meritocracy, they would be greater than they are and in charge of utopia.
(3) Convince themselves and others that there is a real-world revolution brewing and they are not only at the forefront of it but are gaining ground and on the road to winning it, and all their enemies are running scared. This is an illusion of action and activism designed to disguise both from themselves and others the fact that they’re actually a self-esteem support group for shame-filled white men and don’t actually have any real-world political goals or action plans beyond just being a support group.
In future installments I’m going to discuss my theory on how HBD people developed their toxic shame mindsets, as well as go into each of the three goals in detail.