I wrote a post about a month ago on how things get better as you get older and why I couldn’t see myself getting married just yet. In it I gave reason talked about paying off my car, advancing in my career, increasing my financial reach etc etc . In the comment section someone tried to call me out on finally paying off my car and how he did it ten years ago or something. Now this comment was made by a stranger who didn’t know anything about me personally or what I’ve been through in my life. Last week I shared my plan to bulk up for the winter and just threw out some numbers where I was lifting wise just as a baseline to look back against at the end of my bulk. Again in the comment section I was asked if I lift in a skirt because my dead lifts weren’t as high as the commenter. Again this person doesn’t know me personally, doesn’t know if I’ve been injured and had to spend six months rehabbing my right knee or even if I was purposefully not attempting to lift heavy at the moment.
I’ve been writing long enough that this doesn’t surprise me and it’s something I’m used to. If you fuck 10 girls in one week and try to share how you did it, there will be someone out there who’s fucked 11. If you had a good year and made $100,000 and try to write about how other can do it, someone will come along and say he’s made $150,000. It’s the universal law of the internet that no matter what you do there is someone out there who will let you know they’ve done it better than you. I’ll admit I used to be the same way when I was younger the guy that 1 uped every other guy. I had to be able to lift more, fuck more girls, get in more fights but most importantly I had to let you know about it. But then getting older it dawned on me that I wasn’t in competition with anyone else. You soon realize that there will always be someone who’s better than you at whatever it is you do. When you begin you’re own journey of self improvement the only true competition you have is yourself. How you were yesterday, last week, last month, or last year becomes the standard by which you measure yourself against. Not what the guy next to you is doing.
Roosh wrote in his Happy New Year’s letter key advice
1. What do I already excel at? Do what it takes to maintain that excellence.
2. What am I competent at? Do what it takes to elevate that competence into excellence.
3. What am I not good at? Do what it takes to achieve competence in that area.
As you can see he uses “I” and doesn’t mention the guy next to you. Here at NLU this space is to primarily help men make improvements in their lives. On their bodies, their interaction with women, their appearance, cooking for themselves among other things. We realize that not all men are in the exact same place. Some find themselves here looking for information that might help them improve. While others might already have it all figured out. You bang five girls a week, you bench/squat/ dead lift a thousand pounds, you only wear custom tailored suits then congratulations there are no more levels for you you’re a regular Leroy Green aka Bruce Leroy and you’ve reached the final level you’ve got that glow. But in 2014 you can be the guy at the top level shouting down to everyone else your position or you can be the guy at the top level that shows other how to get there.
But if you’re going to be about 1 upping the next guy just remember what Jay Z once said,
“Males shouldn’t be jealous that’s a female trait
What you mad cause you push Dimes and he sell weight?
Y’all don’t know my expenses, I gotta buy bigger plates
Hehehe, and more baggies, why you all aggie?
Nigga respect the game, that should be it
What you eat don’t make me shit -where’s the love?”
2014 is the year to do you.