There’s this common conception among red pill men about the type of girl to marry. In their perfect scenario you meet and settle down with a woman who understands gender roles and once married she eagerly gives up her job to stay at home and take care of the kids while you do all the heavy lifting of working hard and making all the money. She builds your home while you bring home the bacon. I will not argue that there’s plenty of research to show that this is the ideal set up for society and to bring up a well-adjusted family. But in all honesty this is a 19050’s Leave it to Beaver fantasy and it’s 2013.
Now don’t get me wrong, if you’re living in a major city and making that kind of scrilla I’m not here to rain on your parade. If you can find a woman willing to do that and you have the bank roll to have her stay at home while you work then go for it. Another way I see this scenario working out in today’s society is if you live somewhere in America were the cost of living is so low it can allow for one person to make all the money in a house hold and still be comfortably considered middle class.
But if you live in a major city like DC and you meet a girl who has a college undergrad degree at minimum let alone probably a master’s degree then marrying her and having her quit her job to be a stay at home mom is a sure fire way to get ass raped in divorce court if things don’t work out. Never mind that if you live in DC and don’t make about $150,000 a year then a two person income is must. Of course while a woman is in love with you and during the first few years of honeymoon bliss she will enthusiastically agree to give up her career and salary to stay home and take care of the kids. But as soon as one of you file for divorce the first thing her attorney will do is point to the fact that she gave up her career and climbing the corporate ladder for you therefore she should be dually compensated to the tune of (licks thumb, puts it in the air) 10K a month in alimony. As you have a brain aneurism trying to figure out what kind of Hebrew math was used to come up with that number. When you met her she was making 32K a year as an assistant answering phone call. But according to her lawyer in under 8 years she could have become the CEO, add on top of that the “life style she’s become accustomed to” and for good measure the pain and suffering for the abusive relationship she’s survived because of that time last thanksgiving you told her it might not be such a good idea having a second helping of mash potatoes. So yeah 10K in alimony plus another 4k in child support should make her whole.
As funny as it sounds I’ve seen situations like that play out countless times in real life. This is just the first thing to consider when you think you want a wife that stays at home and does nothing else but take care of your kids and the house. The second thing to consider is her appearance. She doesn’t have a reason to put in the effort to look presentable to the outside world; she’s a stay at home mom now. This translates to not having to put in the effort to look presentable for you, fuck you she’s a stay at home mom now. If she’s not a fitness addict then get ready for the pounds to creep up (this is why I’m 100% certain I’m meeting my wife in the gym). Lastly even though she agreed to quit her job and stay at home, you’ll be surprised after a few years how quickly she secretly comes to resent you for this. It will be a trump card she can throw out during the whole marriage to end any argument.
You may be in the clear if you get married to a waitress or fast food employee or a teacher, someone whose future earnings might not increase too drastically in future years. Also you’re good if you find one of those unicorns known as old fashion Christian women whose whole life mission is to get married young and raise future God soldiers for the Lord. But if that’s not the case you’ve got to be smarter than that. In my opinion marry a woman who’s already established in her carrier or rising in it. Someone who’ll have kids takes a short break and get back to her job. You want a paper trail showing that she contributed near equally to the marriage and that however long you were together did not impact her financially for the worse. If you two should happen to divorce it would be slightly harder for her to use her lack of earnings during your time together as a weapon against you. Besides that, in today’s income the financial success of a family shouldn’t rest solely on you.
Sure there are tradeoffs in both situations. We’d all love the 1950’s wife that stays at home, takes care of the kids, and looks beautiful when we get home from work. But in today’s society, with today’s economy good luck with that happening. And that’s if you don’t get divorced.
I understand there’s tons of relationship where it works out like this and everyone is happy. I guess that’s just not in my group of friends.